LATEST RELEASES

               Find Out  More! | Read an Excerpt

 

Find Out More | Read an Excerpt

 

COMING SOON


Want to know what happened after Melt Into You ended?

Releasing September 16, 2014!

Find out more or PRE-ORDERNook | Kindle

 

 

DON'T MISS A THING

*This does not subscribe you to my blog.

FOLLOW ME


       

OTHER RELEASES 

FIFTY FIRST TIMES - A New Adult Anthology

Available now!

               Find Out More!

 

 

CAUGHT UP IN YOU

Available Now!

THE GIRL WHO'S SPENT HER LIFE RUNNING IS ABOUT TO BE CAUGHT...BY LOVE

               Find Out More! | Read an Excerpt

 

 

NOT UNTIL YOU

A serial novel - Read all 8 installments

ONCE A GOOD GIRL DARES TO CROSS SOME LINES, IT'S HARD TO TURN BACK...

               Find Out More! | Read an Excerpt

  

Latest from the Blog

SUBSCRIBE TO BLOG  

 Subscribe in a reader

 

Or By Email

Enter your email address:

Delivered by FeedBurner

                           

 

WHAT I'VE READ LATELY

Roni's bookshelf: read

Trial by FireThe Dom's DungeonBy the BookNakedSmash CutSave The Cat! The Last Book on Screenwriting You'll Ever Need

More of Roni's books »
Roni Loren's  book recommendations, reviews, quotes, book clubs, book trivia, book lists
Search This Site
Powered by Squarespace

Entries in fifty shades of grey (8)

Friday
May252012

Fill-Me-In Friday: Best Publishing Links of the Week

Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho
  


 Need to catch up? It's that time of the week again--best links!

But first, I'm a guest over at the Save the Cat blog today talking about Why Your Writing Process Shouldn’t Be Sacred. Yes, I fangirled about Save the Cat so much online that they invited me over, lol. But seriously, that book changed my writing life. I'm a believer. :)
On Writing/Publishing:
On Social Networking:
Reading:
What You May Have Missed Here:
So that's what I've got for the week. What were some of you favorite links this week?
Thursday
Apr122012

Kink & BDSM 101 - What It Is & Why It's So Popular In Books  #atozchallenge

This is a post I did a while back as a guest post on my blog tour, but with all the talk about BDSM since Fifty Shades of Grey has hit, I figured this was a good time to re-run this primer. 

BDSM 101: What It Is and Why It’s So Popular in Books

Photo by Latente (click pic for link)

When I tell people I’m a writer, I inevitably get the same basic questions—“Are you published?” and then when they find out I’m going to be…“So what’s your book about?”

Depending on who’s asking, I can answer that a few different ways. But if it’s someone who maybe isn’t overly familiar with my genre, the answer is usually something like, “It’s a sexy romance about a social worker who has to find her missing sister with the help of her ex.”  

And for a while, I was able to leave it at that. But as the book got closer and closer to publication and started showing up on Amazon and such, I started getting that other question. “What is BDSM? Is that like handcuffs and whips and stuff?” *insert judgmental, slightly wary expression crossing their face (or a saucy eyebrow raise depending on who was asking)*

To answer: well, yes, it can be about those things. But that’s a very small part under a very large umbrella. Throwing a pair of handcuffs into a story does not a BDSM book make.

So if you’re new to this subgenre, here are some basics:

BDSM stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism (some of the letters do double duty in the acronym).

  • Bondage – Physically restraining a partner in some way (tying someone down, handcuffs, etc.)
  • Discipline – Giving physical or psychological punishment to control behavior. 
  • Sadomasochism -- Sexual sadism is deriving pleasure from inflicting physical or psychological pain on someone else. But it’s not the same as pure sadism. A sexual sadist (especially the ones we write about in romance novels) only enjoy inflicting the pain because the partner is a masochist and derives pleasure from receiving it. It’s an exchange of mutually pleasurable activities. (As opposed to a sadist who would get pleasure from torturing an unwilling victim. That’s a different thing altogether.)
  • Dominance/Submission (or D/s): This is the power exchange between partners, whereby one partner (the submissive) gives over all the control to the other (the dominant). This may be only in their sexual relationship or it may be in all aspects of the relationship. Also, don’t assume that the submissive partner is always the woman. Though that’s the more popular theme in romance, men can be submissive too. (Read Joey W. Hill’s Nature of Desire series if you’re interested in reading some great female dominant BDSM romances.)

A few other terms you may run across:

SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) or RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) – These are the cornerstone philosophies in BDSM play.  All activities must be consensual and safe (or risk-aware if both parties are engaging in the edgier stuff). 

Safe words – A word is given to the submissive to signal “stop everything right now”. The words “no” or “stop” aren’t typically used as safe words because sometimes in BDSM play, someone may say “no” as part of the scene. So a word that easily sticks out like “Waffles” or something is chosen. When the sub says that word, everything stops immediately, no questions asked. 

Subspace – This is the trancelike or euphoric state for submissives. I won’t attempt my own explanation of the science since Wikipedia does a better job: 

“the intense experiences of both pain and pleasure trigger a sympathetic nervous system response, which causes a release of epinephrine…as well as a dump of endorphins... These natural chemicals…produce the same effect as a morphine-like drug, increasing the pain tolerance of the submissive as the scene becomes more intense. Since the increase of hormones and chemicals produces a sort of trance-like state, the submissive starts to feel out-of-body, detached from reality, and as the high comes down, and the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in, a deep exhaustion, as well as incoherence.”

So when people looking from the outside in wonder why the heck someone would want to be tied up, flogged, and bossed around---well, there you go, subspace is one enticing reason why. 

 

But why are so many romance readers and writers getting into BDSM stories? What need or desire are books like 50 Shades tapping into?

I can’t answer for everyone, but for me, the D/s aspect is really what drives me to write and read these stories. Romance readers have always enjoyed the very alpha hero. Think of all those historical romances where the duke/rake/etc. takes all the control. Or look at the paranormals that have all those alpha wolves going after the heroines. 

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely an I-am-woman-hear-me-roar kind of chick. But in a world where we are often weighed down with so much responsibility, it can be a nice escape to imagine having a break from that. Of imagining putting ourselves completely in the hands of a guy we love and trust—one that will keep us safe and also rock our world. ;)  

And that’s how I wrote Brynn in CRASH INTO YOU. She’s very in control of her life, very strong, and has overcome a lot in her past. She doesn’t *need* a man. But because she’s always had to be responsible and in charge, submitting to Reid gives her an escape, a place where she can just let go and feel. And I think on some level, we can all relate to that.

All right, hope this wasn’t too much like some whacked-out school report, lol, but I wanted to give anyone who hasn’t read BDSM an idea of what it’s about. If you have any questions for me or any of this is unclear, let me know in the comments! : )

And if you want some suggestions on great BDSM romances to try, check out my favorites here.

*This post was originally posted as my guest post on Riverina Romantics.

Friday
Apr062012

Fill-Me-In Friday: Best Writing Links of the Week  #atozchallenge

 

Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho
  

 Need to catch up?

If you're new to my blog, every Friday is reserved for rounding up the best links of the week. And the letter for the A to Z Challenge today is conveniently the letter F, so my normal Fill-Me-In Friday works! :)

Here we go...

On Writing/Publishing/Social Networking:

Julie James and the Art of Interviewing at Dear Author

Julie Anne Lindsey | GoodReads for Writers – A LESSON for you

How To Keep Your Inbox At Zero | Author Media

Case Study: How to Breathe New Life into Your Tired Old Blog | Copyblogger

How Cat’s Eye Writer Became a Top 10 Blogger

Andrew Shaffer To Write Fifty Shades Of Grey Parody, Fifty Shames Of Earl Grey 

Content Marketing Data Analysis: Is Pinterest Traffic Worthless? | Copyblogger

 

What You May Have Missed Here:

A is for...An Ordinary Girl

 

 

Breaking Out of Your Comfort Zone

 

 

Channing Tatum - Boyfriend of the Week

 

 

Don't Be THAT Writer

 

 

E is for Easter Eggs Prettier Than Mine  #atozchallenge

 

Hope everyone has a fabulous weekend! I'll be flying to Chicago for the Romantic Times Convention next week, so remind why I signed up for this A to Z challenge again? Eek!

Friday
Mar302012

Catch Up Friday: Best Writing Links of the Week

 

Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho
  

 Okay, so I know I said earlier in the week that I wasn't blogging for the rest of the week. But I've got a pocket of time tonight and have too many good links not to share.

But first, if anyone is in the DFW area, I'll be signing books tonight from 6:30-9pm in Irving along with a bunch of other authors. Proceeds go to charity so hope y'all will come by. (Deets here.)

Alright, on to the links...

Ten Things You Should Know About Endings via Chuck Wendig

5 Key Elements of Author Branding | Self Publishing Team | Duolit

Humor Writing for People Who Aren’t Funny via The Write Practice

So, You Want To Be An Author? Part Four – Ideas « Donna Newton's Blog

Attack Of The Blog | Writers In The Storm Blog 

50 Shades Overrated – Nina Badzin's Blog

The Other Side of the Story: Guest Author Tiffany Reisz : A Twitter-Sweet Love Story

How to Make a Living as a Writer, Part One | Rachelle Gardner

The First Steps to Building an Author Platform: A Guest Post by Dan Blank 

105 Author Blog Prompts: It’s Megapost Time! | Self Publishing Team | Duolit

Start Your Week Off Write: The Dangers of Self-Censoring, Avoiding Controversy, ...

10 Types of Killer Filler Content for Your Blog : @ProBlogger

How To Get Book Reviews Without Spending Too Much Money | The Creative Penn

50 Successful Blogs That Prove You Don’t Have to “Blog About Blogging” To Create a Winner via Sparring Mind

Interview: Book promo mavens Pamela Spengler-Jaffee and Nancy Berland - USATODAY Happily Ever After

Amazon Book Reviews: Democracy in action, ignorance or bullying? | GENREALITY

 

What You May Have Missed Here:

 

Boyfriend of the Week: Alex O'Loughlin via Sharla Lovelace

 

 

What Race Are We In Again? Parental Competition | My post at peanut butter on the keyboard

 

And April will be here in a few days. Thanks the heavens because March has been beyond nightmarish for me. But anyway, April is the month of the A to Z Challenge. I think I'm going to give this a shot because it will shake up my blog a bit and force me out of my normal schedule and comfort zone. Anyone else doing it?

Blogging from A to Z April Challenge: 2012 A to Z Challenge Sign Up List 

 

Alright, hope everyone has a fabulous weekend! I get to spend mine at a writers' conference with my lovely agent and some writer friends. I can't even tell you how much I'm looking forward to a weekend of fun writerly stuff.

Friday
Mar162012

Fill Me In Friday - Best Writing Links of the Week

Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho
  

Busy week? Need to catch up? It's that time of the week again. Hope everyone has had a great one (and survived spring break with your kids!) This week's links list is actually a compilation from two weeks because I skipped last week. Hope you enjoy!
On Writing, Blogging, and Social Networking:
On the 50 Shades of Grey hoopla:
What You May Have Missed Here:
All right, that's what's I have this week. What were some of your favorite posts of the week? Anyone else ready for spring break to be over?