Characters are the hearts of our stories. We don't fall in love with plot (usually), we fall in love with the people. So when creating the characters for our stories, we need to pay careful attention to create three-dimensional believable ones. Our characters should have full, rich backstories of why they act the way they do. (Even if this backstory does not make it into the actual book, we need to know it.) If we treat them like real people in our head, then hopefully they will translate as authentic people on the page.
Those who don't remember their childhood may want to forget itThe ills of the mothers, or fathers, really are visited upon the childrenBoundaries define people the way borders define countriesThe way people feel about sex is critical to their psychologyWomen do not suffer from penis envy nearly as much as men doNeedy people immediately create chaos in relationshipsDon Juan had an absent fatherAn extramarital affair is less important than what led to itBeware unsolicited denialsWe can tell alot about people by the way they say goodbyeWhat is one the outside is often the exact opposite of what is one the insideVain people marry accessoriesThose who can't get comfortable in their own skin may claw at othersPeople regress to earlier behaviors under stressDoing nothing can be very pushy